____ please hold ____ hands palms up where you may see the gift they are to you.
These are the hands of your best friend, smooth, young and carefree, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as she pledges her love and commitment to you all the days of her life. These are the hands that will hold each child in tender love, soothing them through illness and hurt, supporting and encouraging them along the way, and knowing when it is time to let go. These are the hands that will massage tension from your neck, and back in the evenings after you’ve both had a long hard day. They will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times. They will comfort you when you are sick and console you when you are gToday, ____ and ____ , we are giving outer acknowledgment to the true bond that already exists beyond time and space within your souls. Marriage in its deepest and truest sense is a spiritual union. It is also two persons working together toward a goal – two souls manifesting as one in hope, desire, and aspiration. And it is especially a sharing of the deepest friendship for the purpose of enjoying this wonderful life together. The state of wedlock is a holy one, not to be entered onto lightly but only under the guidance of infinite wisdom and divine love. In the days and years ahead, you will choose again and again whether or not to keep your love as the most important part of your lives together.
I’d like to share a Poem with you entitled “Blessing for a Marriage” by James Dillet Freeman. May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitements a marriage should bring, and may life grant you also patience, tolerance, generosity and understanding. May you always need one another – not so much to fill your emptiness as to help you to know your fullness. A mountain needs a valley to be complete; the valley does not make the mountain less but more; and the valley is more a valley because it has a mountain towering over it. So let it be with you. May you need one another, but not out of weakness.
May you want one another, but not out of lack.
May you entice one another, but not compel one another.
May you succeed in all important ways with one another, and not fail in the little graces.
May you look for things to praise, often say, “I love you!” and take no notice of small faults. If you have quarrels that push you apart, may both of you have good sense enough to take the first step back.
May you enter into the mystery, which is the awareness of one another’s presence. No more physical than spiritual, warm and near when you are side-by-side, and warm and near when you are in separate rooms or even distant cities.
May you have happiness, and may you find it making one another happy.
May you have love, and may you find it loving one another. Thank you, God, for your presence here with us and your blessing on this marriage. Amen.
____ and ____ please face each other, hold hands and look into each other’s eyes for the affirmation of your vows. Man’s vows first, then Women’s vows